Hopefully you got a chance to check out the article we wrote for our fellow dating blogger, The Frequent Dater, on How to Ask a Girl Out Online. When we suggested he give us a guy’s take on the topic of “Reasons to Swipe Left” that we wrote about recently, he responded very quickly with some good advice. Looks like the ladies are creating as many bad profiles as the guys out there.
So fellow Single Girls, read on for advice from The Frequent Dater to avoid these 5 Tinder profile mistakes from the male perspective!
I love Tinder. It gives me everything I want from a dating app; loads of choice, the ability to like or reject women very quickly and of course the anonymity that is in place until you get a match. I find the whole process thoroughly enjoyable, in fact it’s almost addictive in its nature and maybe that’s why it has become so incredibly popular. That being said, there are a few things that have me swiping left faster than you can say “see ya!”
If the whole process of accept/reject wasn’t so simple and, let’s face it, ruthless, then I may take the time to see past them. However, because there is an abundance of choice on the app with new profiles literally appearing every day, I just don’t waste my time on women that commit any of the 5 Tinder sins!
The following is a brutal honesty of how I use Tinder, if you’re easily offended then probably best to stop here.
1. Your photo(s) are out of focus
You understand the point in Tinder, right? It’s window shopping of the highest order. And you know what makes someone appear in a shop window? Something that catches their eye. Transfer this logic to Tinder and I’m looking for a photo in focus so I can really judge how you look and can see the features that are important to me.
2. Group shot as the main photo
Now call me picky but, as above, I like to be able to see who you are. Tinder was made, I assume, to cater for the human desire to judge the opposite sex based on looks alone. I’m perfectly comfortable with that and that is why I’m on Tinder, I also know that’s what everyone else is on there for and so I make sure my main photo is just me. Women that don’t do the same will, 9 times out of 10, be swiped left immediately. Now, I must confess, if the main photo is a group shot but they all happen to stunning then I’ll swipe right of course. What I won’t do though, is flick through your photos to figure out who you are until we’re a match. Is that shallow? Probably! It’s a ruthless game! ;)
3. Cleavage shot
If I was just looking for a hook-up then I’d see this photo and immediately think the possibility is there. You could be stunning, a model even, but I’d see this photo and assume you’re arrogant and/or a little loose. My reasoning for this is, Tinder takes your profile photos from Facebook, if you’re willing to put those sort of photos on Facebook then you’re probably not the kind of girl I’m looking for. Sorry.
4. Offensive bio
If I get past your photos then I’ll have a read of your Tinder bio. There’s a few things here that annoy me but the deal breakers are offensive language and grammar. Please use the English language in the way in which it was intended, “u” and “y” are not words in their own right I’m afraid. Also, please learn the difference between “your” and “you’re”, in case you’re wondering:
your = possession (e.g. “look at your car”)
you’re = you are (e.g. “you’re the best” / “you are the best”)
The final thing I find offensive is the airing of strong views that could be deemed offensive. I’m sure we’ve all got opinions that would upset someone, I know I have, but I wouldn’t put them out there for strangers to read and judge me on.
5. Cheap looking women looking for a gentleman
My final pet peeve of women on Tinder is those of you that put up photos of you drinking a pint or smoking or just out drinking in every photo. As if that isn’t bad enough, some of you, and you know who you are, also then write a ridiculous bio that tells us that you just want a gentlemen that knows how to treat a woman like a lady. Let me just tell you, you can’t dress and act cheap and then expect to attract a gentleman in a suit, we’re just not interested in that.
Ok, if you’re still with me then you’re probably thinking that I’m a bit of a dick. That’s fine, you’re entitled to your opinion as I am to mine. I’ll continue only matching with women that are the full package and you’ll no doubt continue to fail in your search for Mr Right.
If you enjoy the frankness of this article, and I hope you do, then you can read plenty more over on my site www.thefrequentdater.com. You can read in-depth guides to Tinder (which will help you avoid all of the issues I’ve mentioned above) and dating in general as well as my own experiences in the dating world. I hope to hear from you over there some time!
The Frequent Dater