Hey Y’all! It’s Claire! You know how we’ve told you that I am huge fan of ghosting, and we’ve also told you about dating karma before too. I am here to remind you, dating karma is real and I just got a served a plate of it.
I’ve had a crazy summer with travel, and a pretty serious family situation so I haven’t had time to do much dating lately. Back in May I had started exchanging messages with a guy who had some similar interests as me, came from a good family, and seemed like a good guy. When we first made plans to meet, I was going to be out of town for a couple weeks and so we made plans for dinner 2 weeks later. When the day of the dinner came, he let me know that he had met someone else in the meantime that he was interested in pursuing. Not what I had been hoping for, but still very respectable. He disappeared into dating abyss and I never thought about him again, until a month later (when presumably things didn’t work out with the other girl), he messaged me to see if I was still interested in getting dinner.
I debated about it, but then decided he had really done a very respectable thing, and I had nothing to lose so I agreed to dinner. I was still in the middle of a family crisis, was totally exhausted, and not interested in dating but he seemed like a great guy. So we made plans for dinner, but I told him about the situation with my family and that I may have to cancel last minute because the situation was changing constantly. He said that he totally understood and he had just been through something similar a few months back with his family. (Crazy.) On the day of the date I had to rush out of work and head home to be with family. I let him know what happened and he totally understood.
I was home for the next two weeks in full blown crisis mode. During the two weeks, this perfect stranger checked in on me and my family every few days in the most thoughtful and supportive ways. I suppose because he had just been through it, he understood. But anyway, he kind of restored my faith in guys for the time being, because of how considerate he was through the situation.
When life finally started to return to normal, we met for dinner. The date went really well, he was cuter than I thought from the pictures (always a good surprise), and we had an overall great time. Because of all the stress I had been under I had resorted to eating cake and ice cream only, so when my dinner came and I didn’t eat it I told him about my new diet and he said not to worry about it. When dinner ended he walked me to my car, kissed me goodnight, and said he couldn’t wait to hangout again soon. I know I’m a tough crowd so when I like someone after a first date I’m always quite surprised myself. I was actually really excited about him, that never happens to me.
So on our second date, dinner came and I again didn’t eat it. That’s when he chimes in that he had stopped at a local bakery on the way for two huge slices of cake, and would I eat that!? #googlyeyes #swoon OF COURSE I will eat cake. I started to wonder if maybe he was too good to be true?
A couple days later we went on our third date, and had nice time at a baseball game with beer and hot dogs. We headed back to his house after the game (my car was parked there) and I told him it had really been a long week and I was ready to head home to bed, but that I had really enjoyed the evening. He said he had a great time and kissed me goodnight. He tried inviting me in, but it was obvious I wasn’t taking him up on it, so he said to drive safe getting home and to let him know when I got home so he wasn’t worried. We exchanged a few texts about what a nice evening it was after I got home. He seemed like the perfect gentleman and I really thought I was on to something.
And then just like that he GHOSTED me. The ultimate ghoster got ghosted. How is that possible?! I guess it’s time someone gave me a taste of my own medicine, but for the time being I’m back to hating everyone. Maybe someday soon I’ll meet the Mr. that makes me change my mind for good.